A Special Child
Many years ago, when I served as an eighth-grade rebbi, I had the pleasure
of teaching a grandson of Rav Shimon Schwab z'tl. At the bar mitzvah of my
talmid, Rav Schwab z'tl related a beautiful dvar Torah, (later published
in his sefer Ma'ayan Hashoeva), about the importance of effectively
modeling a Torah lifestyle. He used the events preceding the birth of
Simshon Hagibor (Samson) to illustrate his point.
THE BIRTH OF A CHILD DESTINED FOR GREATNESS
This week’s Haftorah reading (Shoftim 13:2-25) discusses the birth of
Shimshon Ha’gibor (Samson), and the instructions that his parents received
from an angel prior to his birth.
The Navi (Shoftim 13:3) relates that an angel came to Shimshon's mother
and told her that she was going to have a special child, who would be a
nazir. That meant that for the boy's entire life he would live as an
ascetic – he would not be able to drink wine or cut his hair.
THE REQUEST FOR ADDITIONAL GUIDANCE
When the woman related this incredible episode to her husband, Monoach, he
prayed to Hashem, "Yovoi na oid ailaynu v'yoreinu mah na'aseh l'nar
hayulod – Please send the angel to us again, and teach us what to do with
this [special] child who will [soon] be born (Shoftim 13:8)."
The angel then appeared to them a second time and told the father, "Mikol
asher amarti el haisha tishomeir - Whatever I told your wife [the first
time that I appeared; that] is what you should do." The angel then shared
with Monoach some halachos about nezirus. Upon hearing these instructions,
Monoach expressed his gratitude to Hashem for the additional directives.
Rav Schwab asked several questions on this sequence of events:
* To begin with, why did Monoach want the malach to visit him? Didn't
he trust his wife to relay the instructions properly?
* Additionally, why did he need assistance from an angel as to the
laws pertaining to a nazir? He could have read them directly from the
* Most difficult to understand is – what additional guidance did he
receive during the second visit of the angel? The malach merely repeated
what he had already told Monoach’s wife?
A PROFOUND INSIGHT
Rav Schwab offered a fascinating interpretation as to the request of
Monoach and the response of the angel. He explained that Monoach was
troubled by the fact that he was being asked to raise a child with a set
of halachos that he would not subscribe to. He asked Hashem, "How can I
raise my child as a nazir when I myself will be drinking wine? How can I
possibly be mechanech my son when I am following a different set of rules?"
During the second visit of the angel, said Rav Schwab, the angel told
Monoach, that he, Monoach, should also assume the role of a nazir. Mikol
asher amarti el haisha TIshomer – YOU should do all that I told the woman.
Hashem agreed that Monoach would have great difficulty raising a child
with different standards than he himself would ascribe to, and instructed
him to take upon himself all the stringencies of a nazir.
SETTING A PERSONAL EXAMPLE
As we mature and expand our horizons, we often wish to convey our
hashkofos (strongest beliefs) to our circle of family and friends. The
most common vehicle for delivering our message is usually the spoken word.
Rav Schwab points out that the power of our words pale in comparison to
the effectiveness of a personal example. Values and middos tovos (good
character traits) “are caught not taught.”
Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch, zt"l, offers an insightful point regarding the
well-known statement of our Sages: K'shot atzmecha v'achar kach k'shot
acherim, "Examine yourself [first] and after that [you can] examine
others." The phrase is traditionally understood to mean that one should
reflect upon one's actions and self-evaluate before having the temerity to
Rav Hirsch says that the first time that the term k'shoit is used in this
phrase, it is related to the Aramaic word kushta, meaning "truth" (as
in “alma d'kshoit” – the world of truth; a reference to the World to
Come). In other words, be truthful with yourself before rebuking others.
Rav Hirsch implores us to look at ourselves honestly before we address the
faults of others. We transmit best to others what we believe in – and
practice – ourselves.
Best wishes for a Gutten Shabbos
Text Copyright © 2007 by Rabbi Yaakov Horowitz and Torah.org.
Rabbi Horowitz is the founder and dean of Yeshiva Darchei Noam in Monsey, NY, as well as the founder and Program Director of Agudath Israel's Project Y.E.S. (Youth Enrichment Services), which helps at-risk teens and their parents. He is a popular lecturer on teaching and parenting topics in communities around the world, and is the author of several best-selling parenting tape and CD sets. For more information on Rabbi Horowitz's parenting tapes, visit http://www.rabbihorowitz.com/ or call 845-352-7100 X 133.