Torah.org Home Subscribe Services Support Us
 

Karen's Story

It gives me mixed emotions to write this story.

In a recent Dvar Torah (Lifeline, Vayishlach), Rabbi Yaakov Menken described a father talking of his daughter's predicament in a marriage. I thought he was writing about me, because, lo and behold, the exact same thing happened to me. Except, in my case my ex-husband threatened to teach Christian beliefs to my son if I ever left him. During the marriage, after his religious revolution, he erred on being not too dominating with his new religion.

It is very important to understand that the only reason I agreed to marry my ex-husband was that he promised, before we got married, that he would allow me to raise our children as Jews (in all meanings of the word). He agreed.

Well, fast forward to the custody battle. Religion became an issue. He participated in the circumcision of my son and understood the religion. These facts are very important, because the judge in my court case ruled based on these facts (and especially on the verbal promise) that my son's father was not to take him to any of his religious activities, to a church, prayer group, teach his religion, etc. He also is to serve no pork or shellfish to my son (and when my son is older, no meat and milk). I wasn't able to enforce the kosher meat or house rule. At least, he is not to say anything bad about Judaism to my son, but is to support my son's Judaism by not insulting it and allowing my son to practice it. He can only explain to my son his religious beliefs but not enforce them upon my son. This is an extremely favorable ruling, which others may need to know about.

However, I have learned my lesson. Judaism is my priority (I must not have had it high on the list, since I married a non-Jew -- I realize that now). Now that I am meeting people again, I will only meet Jewish men, all others are out of the picture completely. I feel I have saved my son's life. He goes to the JCC and we attend children's Shabbat services. And we are Jews inside and out. I always have been my whole life. To me it is who I am, what I do, how I think. I am so proud to be Jewish.

I thank you for reading this note. I got a lot out of Rabbi Menken's message and totally agree that we must marry within our culture and religion, Judaism. I hope you do too.

Thank you, Rabbi Menken, for your words, and Good Luck with touching others out there on the web!


 






ARTICLES ON SHOFTIM AND ELUL / ROSH HASHANAH:

View Complete List

Shofar - Past and Present
Rabbi Yisroel Ciner - 5762

A Wake Up Call
Rabbi Yaakov Menken - 5763

The Fast of Gedalya
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5760

Looking for a Chavrusah?

Critical Followers
Rabbi Naftali Reich - 5767

An Opportunity Not To Be Missed
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5758

His Story
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5764

> Spiritual Climates
Shlomo Katz - 5773

Accidental Manslaughter
Rabbi Yaakov Menken - 5757

Rabbi Frand on Rosh HaShana
- 5769

Frumster - Orthodox Jewish Dating

Judges, Kings, Workers & Scholars
Shlomo Katz - 5771

Partners In Peace
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5760

It's Never Too Late
Rabbi Pinchas Avruch - 5765

ArtScroll

The Essence of Jewish History
Rabbi Berel Wein - 5773

You'll be the Judge of That
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5765

What is Elul?
Shlomo Katz - 5773

Hanging onto Holiness by a Thread
Rabbi Yissocher Frand - 5760



Project Genesis

Torah.org Home


Torah Portion

Jewish Law

Ethics

Texts

Learn the Basics

Seasons

Features

TORAHAUDIO

Ask The Rabbi

Knowledge Base




Help

About Us

Contact Us



Free Book on Geulah!




Torah.org Home
Torah.org HomeCapalon.com Copyright Information