by Rabbi Label Lam
In this week's parsha we read that the Children of Israel ran short of
water at a point during their sojourn in the wilderness. They then demanded
water from Moshe. Moshe prayed to HaShem Whose answer was that Moshe
should speak to a particular rock from which water would then flow. The
water did flow from the rock but only after Moshe resorted to striking it.
HaShem then tells Moshe that his act did not manifest faith in or sanctify
HaShem in front of all who were there (as it was meant to). For this, he
was told he would not enter the Holy Land. It appears that Moshe incurred
grave consequences for a seemingly innocuous act. What was the subtle
mistake of Moshe and how do we understand it? What is the Torah teaching
all subsequent generations in this recanting of Moshe's shortcomings?
Rashi explains that the difference between hitting the rock as opposed to
speaking to it diminished the impact of what had been the potentially far
reaching lesson of the moment. Had he shown them that a _rock_ can obey a
word, they would have learned that a human heart, so much softer than
stone, can be made to "hear". When Moshe hit the rock, even though the
desired result of the water flowing was achieved, the cost of the lesson
lost was tremendous.
When a parent does a homework assignment for a child, the work is complete
but a lesson of greater value is left undone. When a parent purchases an
immediate replacement for a child's lost item, they may have the restored
item but the reinforced negative habits will not be so easily replaced.
When a parent makes a bed for a child because it's easier to "do it myself
than to get them to do it" although the bed looks neat, the child inside,
is not. The long/short best methods for a parent or teacher to use is
those which leaves a lasting impression as opposed to those which simply
produce immediate results. Not to teach what to think, but _how_ to think!
I heard a powerful story of a father who made a far reaching impression on
his child. The family was from the German Jewish community. The custom
among Jews of German descent is that even unmarried young men wear a tallis
gadol (prayer shawl) during morning prayers. The son, worked for his
father's business. It happened one time that it was required of him to go
on a business trip of five hours by train. His father spotted his son's
tallis in his room, inadvertently left behind. The father then proceeded to
take the same five hour train ride to where his son had settled into his
hotel room. He knocked on the door and was greeted by his very surprised
son. The father handed the tallis over to his son, wished him well and
took the five hour journey to return home.
On the surface it looks as if the father misappropriated a whole day of his
life for a mere custom. As the young man grew older, however, he never let
go of that custom and was careful to pass it on to his children and
grandchildren who all maintain a firm grasp on their family's customs and
holy practices. It seemed as if the father had wasted a day. The father
had actually invested a day in a lesson that had far-reaching
consequences for generations and generations.
We are not here to judge the actions of Moshe but to understand the value
of delivering the correct message. The difference between "hitting" for an
immediate result and "talking" for the long term benefit made the
difference between being allowed and being denied entrance to the Promised
Land. A "WELL" learned lesson!
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