by Rabbi Chaim Dovid Green
The Maggid of Dubno was famous for answering all questions with a parable.
Even when he was asked why he always answered with parables! Here is the
answer he gave. "Truth was walking about town but everyone was scared to
look at him. Wherever he went, people screamed and ran away because he was
completely naked! Along came his friend named Parable who told Truth that
if he wanted to be accepted, he would offer him a suit of clothing. That
is what happened. Parable gave Truth a suit so people woild be more
comfortable in his presence."
The Maggid was once asked why there is a need for the two Jewish Holidays
of Simchas Torah and Shavuos as they seem to have the same function. Why
don't we condense them into one grand Holiday? He answered with one of his
most famous stories. Once there was a King and Queen who were without
children for many years. In desperation they visited an old wise man who
gave them a potent blessing with one caution attached. If the child would
be a girl, no man must see her until her wedding day, lest she die! When
the Queen gave birth to a baby girl a secluded island was prepared for the
Princess to live on where she would be raised in the finest royal style
with all female educators.
When the Princess came of age, the King approached a handsome nobleman and
offered his daughters hand in marriage. "Sure" was the response, "let's
meet her!" After the King explained that his daughter was not to be seen
before the wedding day, the nobleman declined. Time after time the King was
confronted with the same frustrating reaction. "Let's see her!" "If not,
then how do I know what I'm getting myself into?"
Finally, the last worthy man told the King that he was greatly honored by
the offer. If the princess had the attributes of her royal parents then he
would be delighted to marry her even without seeing her till the wedding
A date was set and the whole world was invited to the celebration.
Everyone came to dance and rejoice. A marvelous time was had by
all...except the groom! He was overcome with anxiety. He had hidden his
inner fears over not having even met his bride. Even after the wedding he
remained apprehensive. He anticipated that, although she was beautiful,
somehow her ugly side would eventually surface. After months of happy
marriage, he came to appreciate more and more profoundly, her wonder,
beauty, charm and wisdom. Each day another wondrous facet was revealed.
The Prince then became upset that he had withheld himself from joyful
expression at his own wedding. He approached the King and admitted that
although _now_ he was delighted beyond measure, at the time of the wedding
he had been filled with inner turmoil. A decision was made that a new party
would be arranged. All the guests would be invited back but this time only
one person, the Prince himself, would dance to express his supernal delight.
The Maggid of Dubno explained that when the Torah was offered to the world
there were questions about it's contents. However, when the Jewish nation
was given it's turn to answer, there was a clear consensus that they were
committed to do even before understanding all it contained. The goal,
though, of _total_ trust was not yet complete. The mind can know what the
heart cannot yet accept. After living with Torah and experiencing what
King Solomon described as "All it's ways are pleasant and all it's paths
are peace" (Mishlay), _then_ the Jewish nation is ready on Simchas Torah to
express intense joy over The Almighty's precious gift.
A great Rabbi asked a group of his students who were preparing for
marriage, "On what do you base your marriage?" They unanimously agreed, "On
love and understanding!" The Rabbi corrected them saying that although
their sentiments are correct, they would not be able to build a marriage on
love and understanding because they as yet neither loved nor understood
their respective brides. Love is something that grows with understanding
and the experience of sharing.
Love and understanding are goals, not basis. The foundation of a marriage
is a total and absolute commitment to arrive at the mountain peak of love
and understanding. Similarly, the basis of our relationship with the
Almighty is in this awesome initial step: to act...to learn...perchance to
understand and therefore love. Sinai was a mountain of commitment,
aspiring to an ocean of deep love and profound understanding. As the
entire Oak tree resides in the acorn, so is the whole of Jewish destiny in
the seed of that initial commitment from which we can continuously grow and
to which is constantly referred to as a wedding day!
Good Yom Tov and Good Shabbos!
We would like to thank Rabbi Label Lam of Foundations for Jewish Learning
for his contribution this week. You can find out more about the upcoming
Foundations seminars which will be held on June 10th in South Africa,
July 4th in Danbury Conn.-(Hebrew/English) and Rosh HaShana with
Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski, by calling 1 800 700-9577.
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