By Rabbi Daniel Travis
Lavan said, “It is better that I give her to you than that I give her
to another man.” (Bereshith 29:19)
From the outset Lavan intended for Yaakov to marry his older daughter
Leah, rather than his younger daughter Rachel. He hinted at his plan when
he said, “It is better that I give her to you,” implying that he
did not intend for Yaakov’s labor to be in exchange for Rachel.
Rather Yaakov would work for him for free, and Lavan would give
Yaakov as a wife whichever of his daughters he – Lavan – would choose1.
Yaakov took many precautions to ensure that he would not be cheated by
Lavan. We might assume that he found this necessary only because Lavan was
an exceptionally crooked individual – so much so that he was
considered “the father of all deceivers.”2 Although “students” of Lavan’s methodology of “double
talk” are still prevalent in today’s society, hopefully such precautions
should not be necessary when relating to individuals who are not as
crooked as Lavan.
When a person is called upon to speak in a secular court, he is asked, “Do
you swear to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?”
We would think that it would suffice to ask, “Do you swear to tell the
truth?” What is to be gained by a triple repetition of the word “truth”?
While adhering strictly to the dictionary definition of truth, one can
relate an isolated facet of a situation and still be telling “the truth.”
However, any objective observer would realize that the overall picture may
be radically different if the missing information is included. For this
reason, courts demand “the whole truth” – all the facts. Still, “the whole
truth” does not mean that nothing false might be added to the story, for
one could tell the whole truth and also add a few lies. Therefore the
court insists that one also promise to say “nothing but the truth.”3
The Torah does not recognize such “double talk” as having any connection
to truth. The veracity or falsehood of a statement is not defined by the
words one uses, rather by the message that one conveys. Although under
certain extenuating circumstances, such as when peace or humility are at
stake, one may be permitted to deviate from the facts if there is
absolutely no other option, the truth can never be altered for the
sake of deceiving someone else.4
1 Or HaChaim on Bereshith 29:19.
2 See following essay.
3 Heard from Rav Yochanan Zweig.
4 The Chofetz Chaim (Rechiluth 1:8) adds that even for the
sake of peace, one is never permitted to take an oath which is not in
accordance with the facts.
Text Copyright © 2007 by Rabbi Daniel Travis and Torah.org