Talk Is Cheap
By Rabbi Daniel Travis
[Avraham said,] “Please, take some bread…” And Avraham ran to the herd
fetched a tender and good calf. (Bereshith 18:5, 7)
We must train ourselves to be ever conscious of human sensitivities. It is
not always easy to be a guest. Human nature is such that no one wants to
feel that he is a burden, nor do people like to accept handouts. A host
may ease the discomfort of his guest by speaking of his hospitality in
moderate terms. Telling a guest to take “a little something” can quell the
pangs of the guest’s conscience, and enable him to accept the kindness of
his host graciously.
Taking all this into consideration, how can we justify the words Avraham
spoke to his guests? While he did display a high level of sensitivity to
his guests, was this not done at the expense of truth? He spoke to them of
bread, and then served them fine meat and other delicacies. With the best
of intentions, it seems that Avraham promised them one thing and then
delivered something else entirely.
People who keep their promises small may be foregoing complete factual
integrity in the short term, but in the long run such a practice actually
safeguards the truth. People cannot always live up to the grand promises
they make. In order to ensure that one’s words are not proven false with
the passage of time, one should always be wary of making expansive
promises. Those who make a habit of flaunting their good intentions risk a
great deal. Through inflated promises a person accustoms himself to
pretentiousness, which grows within him until it becomes a part of his
personality(1). On the other hand, the truly humble make others their
primary concern, an intent which is expressed in acts, rather than speech
(2). Therefore our Sages tell us that the righteous say little and do much
(3). Once a young newly wed couple visited a foreign country. They were
the guests of the chief Rav of that country. As they were about to leave,
the Rebbetzin offered to give them “a little something” for the road.
Since it was difficult to get kosher food in that country the young couple
graciously accepted. In the blink of an eye, the Rebbetzin had filled two
very large bags with a variety of items, providing them with enough food
for the rest of their travels(4).
Upon closer examination, Avraham’s words reveal that he did not actually
say anything that could be construed as false. He never told his guests
that he would give them humble portions to eat. He told them only to take
some bread – and then he served them a feast. His words indicated that he
was offering his guests the option of helping themselves to simple foods,
although he gave them a wide variety from which to choose(5).
1. Maharal on Avoth 1:15.
2. Bigdei Shash of Rav Tzvi Dov Kahonowitz, commenting on Midrash
Tanchuma, Vayera 4.
3. Bava Metzia 87a.
4. Story that happened to the author.
5. Sefer Chasidim 1112.
Text Copyright © 2006 by Rabbi Daniel Travis and Torah.org