Parshas Lech Lecha
Avram took Sarai his wife, Lot, his brother’s son, all the property that
they had acquired, and the souls that they had made in Charan, and
went toward the land of Canaan. (Bereishis 12:5)
At first glance, this verse has little insight or advice regarding life as
a Jew in today’s world. It has importance to us in terms of understanding
Avraham’s life and path to greatness, but little importance in terms of
charting our own, or so it seems. However, it is helpful to know,
sometimes, that some of the greatness insights the Arizal had came simply
from meditating on the verses of the Torah, repeating them over-and-over-
again in his mind.
Recently, I saw a presentation by someone to explain why “they” did not
live in Eretz Yisroel. It was not a new idea, simply stating that the
person has been very effective helping other Jews in the
Diaspora, “proving” that, in spite of the person’s desire to live in
Israel, God prefers for them to remain in Chutz L’Aretz.
That the person is an effective educator in the Diaspora, there is no
question. But, to imply that his or her extended stay in the Diaspora is
essential to the spiritual success of other Jews, is a mistake, flawed
hashkofah.Worst of all, it is misleading to others who might now think the
same way as a result, though previously, they might have considered life
in Eretz Yisroel.
Let me explain.
In 1993, when I personally decided to return to Eretz Yisroel from Toronto,
I was thrown for a loop when someone I worked with asked me, “Did
you ever ask a shailah from a Gadol? You are in the midst of building
something good here, and maybe it isn’t so simple that you just pick up and
leave in the middle.”
Until that time, I had been working with young couples, to try and help
mold them into community leaders, especially to help out with outreach. To
this end, I had developed an entire 8-week program, which I taught, with
material that was both unique and effective, which, when combined with a
mission to Israel, molded us into a community of our own. The program
seemed to be succeeding, and warranted being implemented on a regular
Quite honestly, I loved the program and its results, and had difficulty
leaving it behind. Nevertheless, I felt that I just had to get back to
Eretz Yisroel, and felt confident that others would carry on for me after
I left. I was replaceable, but for me, Eretz Yisroel was not.
However, my colleague’s comment made me question my entire judgment
again, and I began to become uneasy about my decision. Fortunately,
though, as Divine Providence would have it, Rav Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg,
shlita, of Eretz Yisroel, was visiting Toronto at that very time, and he
had been my posek just before I had returned to Toronto. Therefore, I took
advantage of the situation and made an appointment.
I explained the entire situation to the rav, beginning with my intense
desire to return to Eretz HaKodesh, and ending with my friend’s concern
about my leaving. His answer to me came quick: “Everyone is expendable. If
Hashem wants your work to continue here, He will find someone else to do
it. You can return to Eretz Yisroel as planned.”
Reassured, I continued on with my plans and made it back “home” later
that year, to a small community just off the highway between Tel Aviv and
Jerusalem. It is where, thank God, I have been more effective over the last
15 years internationally than I ever was locally, before I came back. While
here, “things” have happened that I would never have dreamed about years
ago, some naturally, many miraculously.
Especially in today’s world, of such advanced technology. Over time, I
became a full-time writer, and with the help of the Internet, over 20
families have come to make aliyah, apparently with the help of my essays
Over the years, I have met many people who have become observant, inspired,
apparently, by what I have written, or more religious, encouraged by
the deeper understanding of Torah I have tried to share.
The first thing we have to know is that, when God wants a job to be
done, nothing can stop Him — certainly not physical distance. As much as
we’d like to believe that we are indispensable, the truth is, we are not.
Rather, what happens instead is that, when God decides He wants something
done, He chooses a messenger who has made himself or herself available
for such a mission, by choosing to be who he or she has become, and
by living where he or she has chosen to live.
It’s like being chosen for a part in a play. The director doesn’t just
choose any actors to play the handcrafted roles of the screenplay. Rather,
knowing what he wants to see brought out by each character, he looks for
actors who can do exactly that, something that becomes apparent only
through previous roles the actors have already played, the result of many
years of development.
It’s the ultimate middah-k’neged middah — measure-for-measure (Sanhedrin
90a). We get to decide who we want to be, and God uses us for that
role. We decide where we want to live, and God uses us in that place. You
want to change yourself? God will find someone else to play the role. You
want to change your location? God will find someone else to do the job
where it has to be done.
Indeed, if you are willing to move up in life spiritually, then God will
promote you, and find someone else to do your old job. As the Torah points
out, Avraham made souls in Charan. He was Mr. Outreach himself. Yet,
when it came time to start Jewish history, God told him to stop what he was
doing and move on to Canaan. As important as it was that he “convert” the
people of Charan, it had been more important to go west and take possession
of Eretz Yisroel.
What about all the potential converts back in Charan? Perhaps, Avraham
had already reached all those with the potential to hear his message, just
in time to move on. Perhaps, those who remained behind did not merit to be
impacted by Avraham Avinu. Or, perhaps, if, indeed, there had been more
souls to be “made” in Charan, God had another way of getting the job done.
And, knowing that, Avraham did not question the command of God, but
confidently went to where he knew he really belonged.
This is not only true on the level of the average Jew, but even with
respect to Torah leaders, as the Talmud points out, and the Arizal explains
using the following verse:
The sun rises and the sun sets. (Koheles 1:5)
This means that, as a Torah leader leaves this world, a new one is born
to replace him (Rosh Hashanah). This is not only true regarding the death
of one leader and the birth of his replacement, but even if one moves to a
different community, for, the only way such a move can leave a community
bereft of its leader is if they lost the merit to have one. As the Talmud
points out, and the Maharshah explains, Torah leaders make their decisions
based upon the merit of the people they lead (Gittin 56b).
Of course, this does not mean that we can whimsically jump from role to
role, or from place to place, living wherever we happen to fancy at the
Even if the community for which you were responsible deserved to
lose you, nevertheless, you will be judged as if you abandoned them, since
you will have failed to leave them for a sound hashkofic reason. Decisions
to be who we are, or to live where we live, or to get involved in whatever
it is we are doing, have to be for the sake of serving God best.
Only then can everything fall into place after we have made our decision.
Only then can our decisions result in win-win outcomes.
Avraham had worked many hard years on himself to become “Avinu.”
Once he achieved that status, he merited to become the father of the Jewish
people, a prophet, and the owner of Eretz Yisroel. After figuring out, on
his own, and over many decades, what God must want from him, God finally
spoke to him, and told him first hand what to do next: make aliyah.
We should only be so fortunate. If God would only speak to us and tell
us when to make the move to Eretz HaKodesh, there would be no room for
debate or rationalization. But, alas, we are without prophets today, and
making such a monumental decision seems to be a function of personal
Well, not exactly. When one desires to live in Eretz Yisroel to be closer
to God, and to take advantage of the kedusha of the land, it shows God
where his or her heart truly resides. When one devises a plan to make
aliyah, because he or she knows that it is the best place to live as a
Jew — even during times of exile — and they yearn to be there with ALL
their heart, it will work out for them, if not immediately, over time. It
will become apparent to them how doing so is not only possible, but
feasible, and life will begin to support such a decision.
Thus, loving Eretz Yisroel and missing it is different from wanting to live
there with a complete heart. “I just have to live there …” is a thought and
feeling that tells God, “I want to serve You and do Your will, but from
Eretz Yisroel. It is imperative for me.” And, it is exactly what God wants
to hear before He starts making reality accommodate such a longing.
Until such time, you will find yourself “needed” in the Diaspora. If it’s
where you want to be, it’s where you will have to serve Him. That may not
sound so bad, but, it was exactly that kind of thinking that put us into
exile in the first place, and therefore, it is something that we have been
trying to rectify for about two millennia now.
Text Copyright © 2008 by Rabbi Pinchas Winston and Torah.org.