Dinah, the daughter of Leah, to whom she had given birth for Ya’akov,
went out to see the daughters of the land. (Bereishis 34:1)
When Ya’akov Avinu was questioned by his father-in-law, Lavan, regarding
his hasty departure from Lavan’s home at the end of last week’s parsha,
Ya’akov answered him:
Unless the God of my father, the God of Avraham and the Dread of
Yitzchakhad been with me, you would have sent me away empty-handed.
Apparently, Ya’akov Avinu fled from Lavan because of his concern about
poor treatment. However, on his way home, did he fare much better? After
surviving his fight with the Angel of Eisav, and his actual confrontation
Eisav himself, he lost the “battle” with Shechem ben Chamor, who violated
his holy daughter, Dinah. And, in Eretz Yisroel of all places!
Even more remarkable is Rashi’s explanation as to why it happened:
He got up that night and took his two wives, his two handmaids, and his
11 children, and crossed the Yabok passageway. (Bereishis 32:22)
But where was Dinah? He placed her in a chest and locked her in so that
Eisav should not gaze upon her. For this, Ya’akov was punished, since he
had kept her from his brother when she might have returned him to
good, and she fell into the hands of Shechem. (Rashi)
Indeed, not only did Ya’akov lose Dinah to a person who was worst than
Eisav, but it was the result of Dinah herself, as the verse states:
And Dinah went out … (Bereishis 34:1)
After all, why did Ya’akov even lock the chest in the first place? Being
exact in Rashi’s words, it says that Ya’akov locked it “before her,”
him,” implying that locking the chest was more a matter of keeping
Dinah in than keeping Eisav out. After all, if Eisav didn’t know she was in
there, or what she looked like, why lock it? And, if he did know she was in
the chest, then what would locking it help? Wouldn’t he have asked to see
Hence, measure-for-measure, for unduly keeping Dinah in, she unduly
went out. For unduly keeping Dinah from Eisav, who was at least
she was unduly taken by Shechem, who was uncircumcised (Bereishis
Rabbah 76:8). And, for unduly being a protective father, by keeping Dinah
away from one of the evilest people in history, Ya’akov was unduly …?
what? Exactly: how could Ya’akov Avinu have been punished for doing
what any good Jewish father would do for his own daughter, without even
Well, as Rashi later points out, and the Midrash states, there was the
matter of Ya’akov’s delay as well (Bereishis Rabbah 81:1). He had vowed,
some 34 years earlier and on his way to Lavan’s house, to give one tenth of
his earnings to God if he returned safely to Eretz Yisroe. As of Shechem,
had yet to do so, and was, apparently, held accountable—even though we
are told that Ya’akov Avinu never wasted a moment!
The only question is, what was the measure-for-measure there? In each
case, even if Ya’akov had indeed been guilty of the “sin” mentioned, why
was Dinah made to suffer as well? The rule is: children only suffer for the
sins of the parents if they continue the sin of the parents. If not, and
still suffers, then there is another matter at hand.
And, indeed, there was. In fact, this entire episode has more to do with
the concept of alilus—when our actions become the pretext for an inevitable
Divine act—than any mistake Ya’akov might have made, per se. In fact, if
there is anything to learn from any of this, it is not about taking
shidduchim for your children, but about how bad things happen in history
for the sake of positive outcomes that we can’t possibly know about in
or without the help of Sod.
For example, recall a previous Rashi (Bereishis 30:21), which is really the
Talmud speaking, that Dinah had almost been Yosef (Brochos 60a). For,
when Leah had been pregnant the seventh time, she worried that she might
give birth to a son, giving her seven of the 12 Tribes, and Zilpah and
two each. That would have meant that Rachel could only give birth to one
of the 12 Tribes, less than her own handmaid.
Therefore, to save her sister the pain of such an outcome, she prayed that
she give birth to a girl instead, and miraculously, the fetus became Dinah
instead of Yosef. After all, it was Rachel who had first saved Leah the
of not being married off first, by allowing Leah to go into Ya’akov
before her. Now, Leah, with the help of Heaven, repaid that favor by
Yosef to be born from Rachel instead.
However, as Rashi points out, Yosef has a special relationship to Eisav,
being his very antithesis (Bereishis 30:25). Therefore, Dinah also shared
some of those characteristics as well, and therefore, like Yosef, she
the ability to “conquer” Eisav. However, unlike Yosef, perhaps she
could have conquered Eisav by winning him over, as opposed to winning
over him, as Yosef is destined to do.
Then, there is the matter of Shechem ben Chamor himself. His ridiculous
name aside (Shechem, son of donkey), as the Arizal points out, he possessed
a holy spark from the soul of Adam HaRishon himself. For whatever reason
he became the carrier of it, the point is, it had become time to redeem it,
and that happened through Dinah. She, of course, subsequently gave birth
to Osnas, the future wife of none other than Yosef himself.
Obviously, such a holy spark had to make its way back into the Jewish
people at some point in time, one way or another. Indeed, Avraham had
rectified the Nefesh of Adam HaRishon, Yitzchak, the Ruach of Adam
and Ya’akov, through his own life, was destined to rectify the Neshamah.
If Shechem ben Chamor had one of those sparks, it had to be rectified
outside of Ya’akov Avinu, by Yosef, or a Yosef-life descendant, more
That had been the main event of history at that time, and everything else
had just been a pretext to make it happen, as the Midrash reveals:
“Go and see the works of God, awesome in deed (Hebrew: alilla) toward
mankind” (Tehillim 66:5) … Rav Yudan said, “The Holy One, Blessed is
He, wanted to carry out the decree of, ‘Know that you shall surely be
(strangers)’ (Bereishis 15:13), and therefore set it up in such a way that
Ya’akov would love Yosef and that the brothers would hate him and sell
him to the Arabs, and that they would all go down to Egypt …” This is
what is meant by “awesome in deed.” (Tanchuma, Vayaishev 4)
Awesome in deed, indeed. There are undercurrents to history that we
can’t always detect, causing us to perceive reality in specific ways so
we will make decisions that allow history to run its planned course. We
make errors in judgment, but sometimes because there is no way not to, and
even though it may result in certain consequences down here, we may not
be held responsible up there.
Sometimes, our mistaken judgment is the result of our own failure to be
clear about what to do. This will still result in the fulfillment of the
plan for Creation, but also make us responsible in Heaven for our mistake.
We should have known better, but didn’t, regardless of how well our error
“helped” God to complete His will.
This is not the end of the discussion, just the beginning of it. But, it at
least serves to remind us that when it comes to God’s running of the world,
Divine logic runs far deeper than human logic. Indeed, often they only
dovetail at the end, when the good that resulted can be seen and
May the merit that comes from the writing and reading of this week’s parsha
sheet be for the refuah shlaimah of, Leah bas Rivka, a warm and
young woman, an “apple” that has not fallen far from its “tree.”