By Rabbi Aron Tendler
What is it like to live as a symbol? The superstars of sports,
entertainment, media, politics, and fashion, are all qualified to answer the
question. They have become our society's symbols of perfection, power and
grandeur. They have been sold to us as heroes and role models. The fact is
that most of them are ill equipped to handle the responsibility of being
"symbols", and that is why inquiring minds want to know so much about their
private lives and public follies. However, we must admit that being viewed
as a symbol is not easy. Symbolic living demands sacrifice, commitment, and
humility. Being a symbol demands that we must live up to the expectations of
others. This is true for the superstars of our culture as well as every
parent, teacher, clergyman, and Jew.
This week's Parsha begins with the restrictions associated with the Kehunah -
priesthood. A regular Kohain is restricted from attending any funeral,
except those of his seven closest relatives. (Father, mother, brother,
sister, son, daughter, wife) The Kohain Gadol - High Priest is restricted
from attending even those funerals. A regular Kohain can not marry a
convert, a divorcee, a Challalah (a child born from the union of a Kohain and
a woman who is forbidden to him), and any woman who was, at one time,
intimate with a non-Jewish man. A Kohain Gadol is further restricted from
marrying a widow. The laws of purity and impurity are far more stringent for
Kohanim and their families than for the standard Yisroel.
The Parsha also details the laws restricting a physically deformed Kohain
from performing the service in the Bais Hamikdash, as well as the prohibition
against offering any sacrifice that is physically blemished. Nowadays, a
Kohain who has deformed hands is restricted from participating in the
"Duchaning - priestly blessing."
Why is the Kohain more restricted than the standard Jew? Why does the Torah
seem to discriminate against the physically challenged Kohain? What is the
difference whether an animal is blemished or not? A blemish can be as
seemingly insignificant as a split lip or eyelid! What possible difference
could that make to the acceptability of a Korban?
From the very first incident in the Torah, the story of Gan Eden, we find an
emphasis on aesthetics and wholeness. The Pasuk says, "G-d caused every kind
of tree to grow from the soil, delightful to the sight…" (Ber. 2:9) Sarah is
described as, "…you are a beautiful woman to look upon." (Ber. 12:11) Rivkah
is described as, "exceedingly good to look upon…" (Ber. 24:16) Rachel is
described as, "…Rachel was beautiful of face and beautiful to look upon."
(Ber. 29:17) Yoseph is described as, "…beautiful of form and beautiful to
look upon." (Ber. 39:6) Tziporah, the wife of Moshe is called "a dark
skinned woman," (Bamid. 12:1) which the Talmud explains to be a euphemism for
exceptionally beautiful. In describing Shaul, our first King, the Navi says,
"…a choice handsome young man - there was no one more handsome in all Israel.
He was a head taller…" (Shm.I - 9:2) In Pirkei Avos (6:5) it lists eight
characteristics of a Tzadik, the very first being, "beauty."
Why does the Torah place such an emphasis on physical characteristics? What
difference does it make to know that our true heroes and heroines were
physically beautiful as well as being spiritually accomplished? Why place
any value on the transient and changing nature of physical beauty?
Rav Shimshon Raphael Hirsch explains in Bereshis (2:9) the importance of
"The abundance of beautiful forms which we note among the creatures on our
earth and the fact that - as far as we know - man is the only creature
endowed with a capacity for enjoying beauty, verifies the importance that the
Creator attaches to this capacity in man's spiritual and moral calling.
Indeed, the beautiful forms that are scattered throughout creation, along
with man's capacity for deriving pleasure from them, represent the principal
means for protecting man from becoming completely brutalized. The pleasure
man derives from the beauty in nature and from the beautiful forms into which
G-d has shaped particularly the world of vegetation, represent a bridge which
leads man to the stage where he is able to derive pleasure from things and
ideas of spiritual and moral beauty.
In an environment where no attention is given to harmony and beauty, man
can easily run wild. The emotion which enables man to derive pleasure from
order and harmony is closely akin to man's sense of order and harmony also in
the sphere of ethics and morality, so much so that - evil appears as
something "broken," a disturbance in harmony in which the whole is no longer
ruled by one uniform purpose."
(For further discussion try to apply the concept of esthetics to the
relationship between Shem and Yefes, as well as the emphasis we place on
modesty and humility.)
Our ability to ignore external appearances and focus on a person's true
internal beauty is directly linked to the presence of beauty in the world.
The contrast, both positive and negative, between the apparently beautiful,
yet, truly ugly; the apparently ugly, yet, truly beautiful; and the
apparently beautiful, yet truly beautiful, puts esthetics into its proper
The verse in Aishes Chayil states, "Charm is deceit and beauty is vain; A
woman who fears G-d brings praise upon herself." My Grandfather Zt'l
explained it to mean that charm and beauty can be deceitful, but the woman
who has charm and beauty, yet is truly G-d fearing, such a woman is worthy of
Beauty and charm are creations of G-d, no different than the rest of
G-d's universe. To deny their obvious attraction would be to deny G-d's
intent and purpose in creating beauty in the world. Obviously, no different
than the rest of G-d's creation, esthetics in and of itself is transient and
meaningless. It must be another means for recognizing the grandeur of G-d
and His intent in putting us in this world. Otherwise, we undermine and
misuse G-d's creation and pervert the sanctity - Kedusha that is our goal.
The Kohain is a symbol. The Kohanim are the select few chosen to live
their lives within the intimate embrace of G-d's manifest presence. The
Kohanim are our teachers and role models. They symbolize the ideal
relationship between a human and his Creator. They live a life of prescribed
sanctity, commitment, and devotion that would have been ours, if not for the
sin of the Golden Calf. Their Kedusha is unique; their responsibilities are
greater; G-d's expectations for them are more encompassing and circumscribed.
Therefore, there are more restrictions imposed upon them.
As symbols, the Kohanim must appear to be perfect. In fact, we want our
symbols to be perfect! It is far easier for us to admire the beautiful
Sarah, Rivkah, Rachel, Yoseph, Tziporah, Shaul, and Queen Esther, and emulate
their selfless courage and devotion in serving G-d when we envision them as
regal, beautiful, and alluring.
I clearly remember the times that my Mother Shlita described the
Lubavicher Rebbe Zt'l to me as, "such a handsome and regal man." In no way
did that detract from the extraordinary influence that he had on our world.
His righteousness and merit stand on their own, but it certainly enhanced his
ability to teach and influence. My own Grandfather Zt'l, although not a
physically imposing individual, was exceptionally handsome. His face
projected a warmth and nobility that framed his monumental scholarship and
righteousness. The pictures of Rav Elchonon Wasserman Zt'l have always
struck me with their awesome and regal beauty. He was a man who certainly
fulfilled the first criteria listed in Pirkei Avos for a Talmid Chacham.
Obviously there were many equally great personalities who were not gifted
with physical beauty and left their indelible marks on the soul of our
nation. However, in no way should that detract from those whom G-d did favor
with esthetic beauty.
Kohanim occupy their unique position within the nation because of G-d's
decree. At all times they must be cognizant that they are who they are, not
because of their own merit, but because they are the sons of Aharon. The
very Bracha that they proclaim before blessing the congregation focuses them
on "the sanctity of Aharon." Therefore, their service in the Bais Hamikdash
demands strict adherence to the established limits of G-d's instructions -
regardless of what we might think, feel, or expect about the value and
importance of physical beauty. This is as true for the Kohain as it is for
the Korban - sacrifice. Both must be as esthetically pleasing and perfect as
the Torah demands.
However, the relative focus on esthetics is only in the realm of
symbolism. In the daily world of Torah and Mitzvos, the inner person should
be our only focus. Each and every one of us is equally challenged to serve
G-d, as we are. Whether beautiful or ugly, perfect or not, we are each the
intended creation of G-d. If you do to the extent of your ability and I do
to the extent of mine, we are both doing what we were intended to do. In
fact, we must each do everything possible to ensure that everyone has the
chance to realize his or her potential. We both need each other to be the
best we can be; or else, G-d's intentions will not be accomplished.
Copyright © 1999 by Rabbi Aron Tendler
and Project Genesis, Inc.
The author is Rabbi of Shaarey Zedek Congregation,
Valley Village, CA.