Home Subscribe Services Support Us
Print Version

Email this article to a friend


In Pirke Abot, Shammai says that we should always greet people with a pleasant countenance. We may not realize it but what the great sage is suggesting is that we always show another that we care about him or her. It's not what you say but how you say it that can communicate this all-important message to another.

The fact of the matter is it also applies to listening when another is speaking. How often a person tries to tell another something that is so important to the speaker and yet he or she gets the feeling that the friend is not even listening. All it really takes is a little eye contact, a well placed facial expression or a well-timed inquiry or comment to give the speaker the assurance that his or her life --it's ups and downs-- matter to you --because the person who is speaking matters to you.

G-d made people need attention as badly as plants need water. So when you show someone that you care you are actually giving him or her the necessities of life.

Today--when someone tries to tell you something and you are just too busy and involved in your own little world to really care--stop! Remind yourself that friendship and caring is what makes the world go round. It only takes a minute and of all the gifts you could give someone--a very inexpensive pause and a word to show that you care gives life itself.

Text Copyright © 2003 Rabbi Raymond Beyda and Project Genesis, Inc.



View Complete List

Why Eight Days?
Rabbi Yehudah Prero - 5755

Money is Time
Rabbi Raymond Beyda - 5764

A Counter-Intuitive Reading of A Difficult Pasuk
Rabbi Yissocher Frand - 5771

Looking for a Chavrusah?

Yaakov vs Eisav Throughout History
- 5774

Not Just Trappings
Rabbi Yaakov Menken - 5762

To Charm and Disarm
Rabbi Label Lam - 5764


Ya’akov/Yisrael – What’s in Two Names?
Rabbi Eliyahu Hoffmann - 5768

Light Over Darkness
Rabbi Naphtali Hoff - 5768

A Spell of Brotherliness
Rabbi Label Lam - 5771

Frumster - Orthodox Jewish Dating

Straightening Out The Cause And The Effect
Rabbi Yissocher Frand - 5773

A Strategy Born From Strength
Rabbi Label Lam - 5767

Chanukah Thread
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5776

> Perceptions: Vayishlach
Rabbi Pinchas Winston - 5775

Reuven's Lesson
Rabbi Aron Tendler - 5766

In the Dark
Rabbi Raymond Beyda - 5767

Remaining Whole
Shlomo Katz - 5761

Project Genesis Home

Torah Portion

Jewish Law



Learn the Basics




Ask The Rabbi

Knowledge Base


About Us

Contact Us

Free Book on Geulah! Home Copyright Information