All We Can Take From A Taker
By Rabbi Label Lam
And Korach took… (Bamidbar 16:1)
He took: He seduced the heads of the Sanhedrin with soft speech. (Rashi)
He took …a bad business for himself. (Tactate Sanhedrin 109B)
He took: He assumed the right to himself (Rabbi S.R. Hirsch)
What exactly did Korach take? The verse is purposefully ambiguous about
what it was that Korach took perhaps to imply all of the above and more.
The Chovos HaLevavos offers a “must read” prescription on how to be a good
neighbor or friend that may help us to understand where Korach went awry
“If one who trusts in G-d has a wife and relatives, friends and enemies,
he should trust that G-d will save him from being overly burdened by them
and he should endeavor to meet his duties toward them to fulfill their
wishes and to be sincerely concerned for them. He should avoid causing
them any harm and promote their interests. He should be their steadfast
supporter in all their concerns and advise them what is advantageous to
them in religious and secular matters.
He should do this to serve G-d as it written, “Love your neighbor as
yourself”, “Do not hate your brother in your heart”. Not because he hopes
to be repaid by them, not to make them indebted to him, not because he
loves to be honored and praised by them, not to have authority over them,
but rather to fulfill the commandment of the Creator and to keep His
covenant and His ordinances in their regard.
For if his motive in fulfilling their wishes is one of those ulterior
motives mentioned above, he will not obtain what he wants from them in
this world, he will labor in vain, and he will lose his reward in the
World-to-Come. If, however, he acts solely out of service to G-d, then G-d
will help them (his beneficiaries) to repay him in this world and will put
his praises in their mouths and will increase his stature in their eyes.”
The Chovos HaLevavos gives a clear “if/then” promise without any
qualifications. If one engages personal interactions with a selfish motive
then the mission will certainly fail. However, if one acts out of a sense
of dutiful concern then success is guaranteed.
We can all testify with our own experience to our reaction when
confronting a sales person in a store. “Can I help you?” We remain
suspicious as to whom they hope to help. The agenda runs interference
with our ability to trust. The child who is asked to recite “Mah Nishtana”
to impress the guests will also more likely freeze and fail recognizing
subconsciously he is being asked to risk humiliation to offer someone else
a feeling of success or nachas.
If a parent or teacher can convince a child that they have his or her best
interest at heart then they can really begin to work wonders. The
relationship becomes inspired with genuine respect. The person’s needs are
perceived as an end and not just a means.
Nobody wants to be a mere instrument for somebody else’s aggrandizement, a
stepping stool or even a medal on their chest. Even if a person is
pleasant and charming the weight of the agenda eventually crushes the
relationship. I always imagine being hugged by one of those teddy bears on
the front of a truck. Watch out!
Why is it that when we go to a doctor and if we don’t like what we hear we
go for second opinion and yet when we get on a plane we trust the first
pilot offered? The difference is that the pilot is also getting on the
plane. Korach tragically crashed a plane with 250 families and their
possessions by convincing them and himself he had their best interest at
heart when it was really only about him. Perhaps this profound lesson of
caution is all we can take from a taker.
Text Copyright © 2004 by Rabbi Label Lam and Torah.org.