"[Yosef] sent his brothers away. As they were leaving he told
them, 'Don’t argue on the road.'" (Bereshith 45:24)
Yosef was not worried that they might have a petty argument over some
trivial matter; rather he cautioned them not to become involved in
intricate halachic discussions. Yet the Torah commands us to learn Torah
whenever we can, especially when we are traveling. Why then should Yosef
have told them not to discuss Torah topics on the road? Yosef was actually
concerned for their safety: Torah learning can result in fierce conflicts
in the struggle to arrive at a clear understanding of the Torah’s true
intent. Because of the superior strength of Yosef’s brothers, and the
dangers of the road that threaten any traveler, Yosef was fearful that
some tragedy might result if they involved themselves in such disputes (1).
Shlomo HaMelech tells us that the Torah’s ways are ways of pleasantness
(2). This being the case, how can learning Torah lead to vehement
disputes? One of the qualities of a Jew is that he does not accept
anything that is not absolute truth. Indeed, it is forbidden to accept
teachings as Torah unless one is convinced that they are absolutely true
(3). When two people study Torah together, since they are both working
towards the same goal – both are battling to arrive at the truth – it is
inevitable that when they finally agree upon the truth, pleasantness will
reign between them. Although two people learning Torah may at first be
enemies, by the time they together arrive at the truth they will be the
closest of friends (4).
Rav Yochanan and Reish Lakish shared just such a relationship. Every time
Rav Yochanan spoke words of Torah, Reish Lakish would bombard him with
questions. Nevertheless, Rav Yochanan loved Reish Lakish so much that when
Reish Lakish died Rav Yochanan tore thirteen garments in mourning (5).
For one who avidly seeks the truth, a refutation of his words is much more
valuable than a proof to support his viewpoint. So much so that our Sages
often tried to refute their own opinions (6).
When two people are arguing over matters of Torah or halachah, one or the
other will often make a mistake in the course of their discussion. Can he
be considered guilty of falsehood? Since both are involved in the pursuit
of ultimate truth, and since their discussion will eventually bring them
to the truth, each one may assert his own view freely, for there is no
problem of falsehood in their arguing (7).