By Rabbi Yisroel Ciner
This weeks parsha, Vayera, begins with Hashem (G-d) 'visiting' Avrohom
Avinu who was recuperating from his bris milah (circumcision). Hashem, not
wanting to trouble Avrohom with passersby, had made it an unusually hot
day. However, upon seeing Avrohom's distress at the unavailability of guests
to invite into his home, Hashem sent three angels in the guise of men.
Avrohom, in his weakened state, rushes out to invite them to his home.
We find a seeming inconsistency in regard to the way that Avrohom served
them. "Sh'losh s'im kemach solet, lushi va'a'si ugot (18:6)" - three measures
of fine flour were used to make an abundance of cake. Three young bullocks
were slaughtered to offer each the choice cut. "V'hu omed alaihem" - and he
(Avrohom) stood over them to cater to their every need. Yet, when it comes
to the water that was brought, we see a very different attitude. "Yukach na
m'at mayim" - allow for a little bit of water to be brought! Why, when it
came to the water, did Avrohom offer only the bare minimum?
There was a very basic difference between the bringing of the water and the
serving of all of the other items. Although Avrohom and his wife Sarah
personally took care of all of the serving, the water was brought by someone
else. We can be generous and giving when we ourselves are performing
the act. However, on someone else's account, when someone else is doing
the work, that is not the time to be overly generous and righteous!
An interesting observation is that Avrohom did have Sarah make an
abundance of cake. This would seem to indicate that one can have their wife
work hard for guests without 'being a tzaddik on someone else's account'.
However, this observation can only be correctly made when, as in the case
of Avrohom, the husband is working even harder than the wife to serve the
Rav Yisroel Salanter zt"l was once invited by one of his talmidim (disciples)
to the Friday night Shabbos seuda (meal). He told his talmid that he doesn't
eat out without first knowing how the meal is going to be run. His talmid
proudly told him that everything in his home is done strictly according to
halacha (Jewish law). "The meat is glatt kosher and is bought from this
particular butcher. The woman who works in our kitchen, the widow of a
scholar, is very trustworthy. Even so, my wife is always in and out of the
kitchen, making sure that everything is being done properly. Between every
course, words of Torah are discussed and Shabbos z'miros (songs) are
sung. We also have a class on halacha taught during the meal. The seuda,
being very beautiful and meaningful, continues until late in the evening."
After hearing all of these details, Rav Yisroel agreed to come only on the
condition that the meal be shortened a full two hours. The surprised talmid
agreed to this condition and the meal was a very rushed one. One course
was brought quickly after the other, and before an hour had passed, they
were ready to bentsch (say the grace after meals).
The talmid, unable to contain himself, turned to his Rebbe and asked what
had been wrong with his normal way of conducting the meal. Instead of
answering directly, Rav Yisroel summoned the widow who had done the
cooking and serving. He turned to her and said, "Please forgive me for
rushing you so much this evening. I know you are accustomed to having a
nice, long break between each course."
"May Hashem bless you and may you be a guest here every Shabbos!", she
answered. "The meal usually goes very late and, after a full day of work, I
can hardly stand on my feet! Tonight, thanks to you, the meal moved very
quickly and I'm now free to go home and rest." Rav Yisroel turned to his
talmid and explained that his normal seuda schedule was very beautiful, but
not at the expense of others.
Avrohom only had others bring a little bit of water.
Our parsha concludes with Avrohom's tenth and most difficult nisayon (test),
the akeida. "Kach na es bincha es y'chidcha asher ahavta es Yitzchak
v'ha'alehu shom l'oloh (22:2)" - Take, please, your son, your only one, the
one you love, Yitzchak, and bring him up as an offering. Avrohom had been
gradually developing and uplifting himself. This had begun with the first
nisayon, Uhr Kasdim, where he had been thrown into a furnace for refusing
to deny Hashem's existence and had continued through eight additional tests.
He was only now ready for the zenith of his greatness, the akeida.
Rav Eliyohu Lopian asks that Uhr Kasdim, the first test, seems to be more
difficult than the akeida, the last test! At Uhr Kasdim, Avrohom had not yet
seen or heard from this alleged G-d. Based solely on, and for the sake of, his
own belief, he was willing to give up his life. At the akeida, although he was
asked to sacrifice his only son, Hashem spoke to him and explicitly told
him to do it! I would imagine that most of us would do anything that
Hashem would ask of us if He'd speak directly to us!
He explains that at Uhr Kasdim, Avrohom did that which he felt was right.
He understood that there must be a G-d and that he must even give up his
life before renouncing this G-d. For a person to do that which he believes to
his very core, even without being instructed by Hashem, is not so hard.
The akeida, however, was an incredibly difficult nisayon for Avrohom. He
had spent his whole life spreading the word and teaching about Hashem. He
taught the world of a kind and compassionate G-d. He rallied against the
then common practice of sacrificing children to the pagan gods. Throughout
the course of his life he had converted thousands upon thousands of people
to his belief. Then, inexplicably, Hashem speaks to him and commands him
to take his own son and offer him as a sacrifice! This runs contrary to all
that he has dedicated himself to. His whole life's work will be destroyed.
Not a single person will continue to serve Hashem! This runs contrary to
all that he understood about Hashem.
It is much harder to do that which we don't believe in, even if commanded
directly by Hashem, than to do that which makes sense to us, even if we've
never heard from Hashem.
Avrohom could have started to question himself. Could this really be the will
of Hashem?! Perhaps
the test is for me to show that I won't sacrifice my son... Perhaps this
kindness wants me to prove my kindness... Perhaps, by obeying, I'll be
failing this test...
However, Avrohom, the quintessential servant of Hashem, made no such
calculations. If I was commanded, then I must obey. Even if my mind tells
me that much will be lost by listening, how can I even consider my thoughts
when they go against the thoughts of G-d? Any understanding that I might
have is comical when compared to the depth of His perception. Avrohom
woke up early in the morning and took Yitzchak with him to do the bidding
May this aspect of Avrohom, which became a part of each and every one of
us, his descendants, manifest itself in our adherence to Hashem's words,
even when our understanding of them is incomplete.
Copyright © 1997 by Rabbi Yisroel Ciner
and Project Genesis, Inc.
The author teaches at Neveh Tzion in
Telzstone (near Yerushalayim).